Think before you talk. Many people do the second, few do the first. And this can cause a lot of harm around you, because you never know what the people listening to you are going through.
I, specifically, know what happens in the case of eating disorders, and how phrases that people say nonchalantly and lightly are terrible both for people who’re suffering from these illnesses or trying to recover, and for those who are prone to them for some reason.
Below I’ll explain some of the most harmful and, at the same time, common phrases. These aren’t phrases you must avoid just when you’re with a person you already know has that problem (I’ll make a post about that). But phrases that you should always avoid, because as I’ve said you don’t know what seeds are already in the mind of who listens to you, and also so you can stop the injurious diet culture that has driven crazy our relationship with food as a society.
1. We’ve pigged out! / I’m so full
When the portions were perfectly normal. For some reason, these kind of phrases are considered as praise, to say that the food you’ve been served was very good, but the only thing they get is that people who’d eaten well now feel embarrassed because they think it was too much. It’s better to say: the food was delicious, everything was so yummy, etc. How much each person has eaten, and how that amount fits in their own eating pattern, is a private question.
That’s why it’s fundamental to avoid phrases with inclusive plural such as the first one; but more subtle things as the second one are dangerous too, because if others have eaten the same as you they’ll feel guilty. It’s very common for people with eating disorders —in recovery too, because you aren’t able to control the portions— to compare their food with everyone else’s to make sure they aren’t “overeating”.